Taken for Granted

For over 20 years a man has had sex with many women unprotected. There is no telling how long he has had herpes. We have been in a relationship for 3 years and out of those 3 years I have had lesions between my thighs but never anything really harsh. I didnt know what they were or why they were there but ignored them. They are always along my panty line. They arent painful, red, blistery or anything like pictures I have seen. Just a circular blister/lesion. Taking for granted having sex with just who you want to unprotected is being selfish and not thinking about the other person. Luckily all I have is herpes and not anything worse than that. I am very emotionally upset over this and wish I had someone to talk to but am embarrased. I do call my doctors office and ask them questions when I think of something I dont understand. My boyfriend needs to be tested but feels if I have it, he has it. I did a test to see what would happen. I had unprotected sex with him and 2 days later a new sore appeared on my panty line. He has no lesions or bumps anywhere and doesnt understand why, I guess because his symptoms are lying dormant. I just want to throw out there to all women of all ages who are sexually active, do not trust anyone, when having sex - STRAP one on. Now I have to live with this for the rest of my life because I have 1 & 2 which 2 is uncurable. I do take Valtrax during outbreaks but am still confused about the whole situation. I am trying to find a place where I can attend a class on herpes. I hope this story encourages people to protect themselves because you never when something like will happen to you. God Bless.