scared and worried..need advice ...

by louise
(california)

I recently met the most amazing man, ( who's now my boyfriend), totally hit it off, didn't have sex with him the first night but were both pretty drunk and did fool around a bit and there was contact involved. The next day he took me on a walk and told me he had the herpes 2 virus, ( currently dormant). I was shocked, scared, and felt sick to my stomach but admired and respected that it took him a lot of guts to tell me the truth and was happy he didn't try to sleep with me the previous night. So I would like to know if people have any advice or can give me some piece of mind. I know I'm putting myself at risk by being with him but I feel like the connection we have is worth the risk, ( or am I totally kidding myself). i know i could get this and be stuck with it the rest of my life and im trying to figure out if its all worth it. like i said i think it is but what if we break up in a month.. was it really worth it? What would you tell someone or your new partner if they were in my shoes. What can i do to prevent it. Can we ever have unprotected sex, can i get it even if we are using condoms and he doesn't have a current outbreak. what if i just rub up against him. can i get the Herpes 2 virus from oral? I have so many questions and i feel kinda bad every time i bring it up to him, as willing as hes been to answer my questions i have asked him, i still see how hard it is for him to even deal with it so I'm hoping maybe someone can help me. I also would like to hear what other people not in my relationship think and have to say since its an outside point of view. anything would be greatly appreciated . thanks. :)