People need to be educated more about STD's.

As I was making love to my bf, I noticed that he grimaced in pain. He said he was a little sore from too much love making. A week later the same thing happened and then 2 days later I felt sore near my bottom. I looked in the mirror and noticed a big red sore and three pimples on the bottom of my vagina.

I panicked and went to the Dr for blood work in which I found out I had herpes. My bf was in disbelief. I know he gave it to me but was unaware of it.

This has been really hard for me because it makes me insecure about our relationship. We love each other, and I'm not blaming him for anything because we've only been together 3 months and he probably didn't even realize what he had.

I downloaded a book of STD's from the internet called Seductive Delusions: How Everyday People Catch STD's and was quite shocked on how easily STD's can be transmitted even with a condom. The best thing to do is wait to get to know the person and then insist that you both get tested for STD's. I could have had something far worse than Herpes.

No one's even safe from oral sex, rubbing your skin against someone else, genital warts, hepatitis, etc.You can have any number of STD's without any symptoms whatsoever.

This is the best kept secret because nobody talks about it. People should stop assuming that everyone is clean and use condoms until they get tested.In the book that I bought it says you should assume 3 things. 1. That everyone you meet has at least 1 disease, 2. Everyone lies, 3. All young girls are fertile.

By the way, my bf and I are in are early 50's.