Not what I expected

by Goody Two Shoes
(Chicago)

I was in two long term committed relationships before I was married. Ended up with herpes, but neither will admit to it (guess I caught it from the air?). Now I feel pretty bad because it is probable my husband will end up with it at some point.

The thing is, dating professional upper middle class men, I assumed that they would be clean (or honest about having something). They were neither. I learned the hard way, but now I make sure to go to my annuals and talk to my obgyn to make sure my fertility and the things that really count aren't affected by it. That is the only thing that makes me feel better.

A woman I work with had another std, and she never new it until it was way to late. She was the same as me, assumed her husband was clean because he was a car company executive. He wasn't. So, I guess out of the two of us, I got the good end of the deal.