just 15 - my life is over?

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just 15 - my life is over?

at first i thought they were ingrowing hairs? - in fact the doctors told me i had ingrowing hairs.. im just 15 and i lost my virginity at a stupid age of 13 to a player, i got used and cheated on and thought i was in love.. what an idiot right? anyway a year later im with this new guy.. i was his second and before i was with him we slept together and i got tested after-wards and was clean.. after again sleeping with the player, well.. i found out today i have herpes, wow.. that's all i can say, Ive cried.. Ive researched. what the hell do i do? im 15.. not even half way through my life and have a std you cant get rid of? whats the point anymore.. Ive been reading stories and people seem to react like this but then get over it? please help me to get over it?! even this feels good to sort of tell someone, and all these stupid websites are giving me different information. what the hell do i do?

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May 24, 2010
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Not much you can do except be honest
by: Anonymous

There inst much you can do except be honest and find a partner that is in the same boat or at least is willing to accept the risk.

Your life is far from over and there is a lot of joy and love still to come for you, don't ever think that its not, that's the cowards way out.

Make sure you eat healthy, look after you body, sleep, exercise and stay positive. What the hell its just a cold sore in the wrong place, not the worst condition you can have by a long long way!!

Keep Smiling :)

Jun 12, 2010
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I'm 16, and in the same boat.
by: Arianna

I just got diagnost with them a couple days ago. I'm only 16, and trying to think of all the positive things in life, that will keep me going, not all the negative things that will tear me down and make me want to give up.

Guys will be guys. They're are certain ones out there that know how to treat a women, and theres also those ones that have no respect, and could care less. And to be honest, those have seemed to be the ones i have layed my hand and eyes on, ever since i knew how.

You have so much more to live for, and i'm sure you have an amazing potential. And the reason that i am so happy that i found you're story, is because i felt so lost in my own world being the only one in my age group to have herpes. I've never head any other teenager talk about there expirience with herpes, until i found this one.

I wish you the best of luck, and we will soon be to the point where we will look back on this, and be like "wow, us teenagers with herpes made a HUGE deal out of it at first" haha but you know what, this is only scary for us for the time being, because we're just starting to get used to it.

I look forward to hearing what other people have to say about you're story, and i'll make sure i check up on it when i can.

I actually have a story of my own on this site;
it's called "this is gonna be one crazy adventure" i'm not so sure that you'll be able to find it, and i can't find the link to send to you, so i wish you all the best of wishes. (:

Aug 05, 2010
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Just being real
by: Anonymous

No, your life isn't "over"... neither of you. However, be aware that having herpes puts you @ higher risk of getting HIV, HPV, & other STDs/STIs. The best thing you can do for yourselves (hard as it may be) is to be abstinent. Why does that sound so crazy 2 ppl these days? Maybe because society has become so desensatized to sex. It's no longer a beautiful thing shared between a married couple. Now it's a perverse, wild, animalistic act that "everybody's doing". Sex has two purposes; procreation (baby making) & bonding between a married couple. That's it. If everyone remained virgins until they were married & ONLY had sex with their spouse, we wouldn't have these STDs & unwanted pregnancies. Young girls would not have all these self-esteem issues in school, when they should be focused on graduation day.

I gave up my virginity (to a male ho...) & got Chlamydia... that was my warning sign, but I didn't listen. I was treated & cured & months later began having sex again. The next person I was with raped me. That was another warning sign. Again, I didn't listen! Instead, I let that event effect me in a negative way. I felt like I wasn't worth loving, wasn't worth anything. I disrespected my body by having sex with men who were not my husband! Now, at 28, I am ready 2 have a family. 2 yrs ago, (I was engaged) & my ex fiance gave me herpes. He had it & didn't tell me. Now, I wonder, "Who will want me now? How can I ever marry & have kids with this disease?" It's a painful thought.
I am abstinent now, & I feel so much better about myself! I have a good friend (male) who cheers me up when I get down about my disease. He is disease-free. Once when I was down & crying I said, "Who will want me? No one wants a HSV infected woman!" He said, "That's not true. You are a beautiful, smart, kind-hearted woman and any smart man would be lucky to have you." Then I said, "Oh, please! Would YOU marry me? Knowing I have this?" Without skipping a beat, he said, "Yes I would. Like I said, you are a catch! A commodity. You don't find many women your age with all the things you have going for you... AND no kids??? Woman, you are a GOLDMINE!" Those were the sweetest words I'd ever heard! No, we are not married or even in a relationship. His comments just let me know life is not over. There is still someone out there 4 me. I just have to be patient & wait... & keep myself as healthy as possible by NOT catching ANYTHING ELSE!

Now that you've had this (bad) experience, learn from it & don't make the same mistakes I did! The wisest thing you can do is say no 2 sex (including oral) until a man shows respect & adoration of you by putting a ring on it & walking down that isle (or courthouse) & saying those vows to you! You can do it! Love yourself. No1 will love you better than you! God bless.

Sep 18, 2010
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I was a virgin.!!
by: Anonymous

Hey there just being real..I was a virgin and got married to the guy who I lost it to and now have herpes..It can happen to anyone..I was with one guy and married him to find out later on I have herpes..He had no idea he had it himself and never showed any syptoms..He also is not one to cheat and doesn't have very many sex partners himself..It is just reality it is out there alot more then anyone says..Everybody just keeps it a secret they have it..

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