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I found out the hard way

by E P
(Hamilton ON)

I was with my ex-boyfrined for five months, he never told me he has gentle herpes, I went to the doctors and found out! It was the worst day of my life! My frist brake out was the wrost, hurt when I went to the washroom screaming and crying because I was in so much pain, lost lots of weight! I didn't want people looking at me, I felt really drity and hated myself and HIM the most! He blamed me for it when he knew it was his fault! I know when I'm going to have a break out I stop eating until it happens, because I don't have an appitte! I tell the guy that I'm interested in right away just so he has the choice to like me or not! I've had gental herpes for almost 6 years in June it'll be 6 years! I have a great boyfriend now, we have to children and thank God that my babys don't have them I was so scared for them to get it but I've had normal birth with both of them!

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Feb 04, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Hey Hard Way unfortunately, your story sounds so similar to mine. I was with this man, falling in love with a li,e and actually thought I was doing things the right way, the grown woman's way. I had protected sex with him, I had him (and myself) take HIV/AIDS tests every 3 months for the first 9 months (three tests in all). I tried to do everything right, so I thought. Never thinking that there was something as permenant out here that I should have had that nasty bastard tested for. But, in the back of my mind, I did have reservations and with the fantastic trick of 20/20 hindsight, I now see I should have listened to my instinct. I felt so dirty, ashamed and low. I lost so much weight and the pain...omg! Unbelievable. He, however, didn't try to turn it around on me, but he just didn't protest enough for me to believe him when he said he didn't know he had it. It was almost like he was waiting for that phone call. I commend you for moving on. I am still with him because I just don't know how someone else would take me...
Aug 04, 2010
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by: Angry, USA

Wow, I feel for you. I have it, too & got it from my ex fiance. He blamed me, yet never got tested. I had been tested several time b4 being with him & was negative. After being with him, I had an outbreak & when I got tested it was positive. The day we had sex last, (I believe the day I contracted it) I happend to look at him (after we did it) & noticed some bumps... I knew then, in the pit of my stomach what it was. Anyway, I feel for you. Just know you aren't alone. The statistics for the U.S. alone is 90% of sexually active people from age 16-50 have this disease. That's just the percentage of those who get tested & KNOW they have it!

To the other commenter, YOU DON'T have to STAY with him! It's no longer a healthy relationship anyway because you now resent the heck out of him. It is best for both of you (especially you) if u just move on. I thought I had to stay with my ex, too but I've had another boyfriend since who stayed with me for 10 months. We broke up on unrelated causes, but the point is you are still lovable! You must love yourself 1st though. That's the most important thing. God bless you both.

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