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Husband gave me Herpes

I got married December 2009 and 3 months later in March 2010 I noticed a sore on my vagina. I went to the 2 different Dr.'s, got tested and the results came back positive for genital herpes. I informed my husband that he infected me and he was completely surprised because he said he didn't have it. Nonetheless, he got tested as well, and it came back positive. His Dr. informed him that he had it anywhere from 6 months to 1 year PRIOR to us being together. With that being said, he apologized and said that he didn't know he had it. I have been struggling with this for an entire year now and the stress, the burden and misery I feel, knowing that I have this "lifelong" STD has totally taken control of me. I finally told him that I wanted a divorce and he still says that he never knew (which could be possible, but I can't kill myself up trying to figure out if he did or not) and the minute I told him, I felt like a gray cloud had risen from my shoulders. Among other things in the marriage that I feel aren't working, I feel nothing but resentment towards him and honestly, do not want to be married to him anymore. I have not been able to focus mentally; I am unhappy and miserable; my sanity is just out of control; and a few people have noticed a change in me. With that being said, I feel that my health, sanity and peace of mind come before any job or relationship (no matter what type) and if I don't have any of those, then I am lost. Therefore, in order for me to feel at ease, not stressed over this disease, I don't feel that I can be with someone who gave me an STD; whether they knew or not. i can't handle it whatsoever and that is just me. Because I have been stressed beyond any words that can describe how I feel, I would get a break out EVERY MONTH!! To prevent that, I am on a daily regime of Valtrex and will not stop because I know I will continue to get monthly breakouts, which are NOT good at all. The amount of stress I have been under since finding out I got herpes causes these monthly breakouts. Hence, a divorce.




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Apr 25, 2011
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by: L & B

UGH.!I'm 20, & I have it.. Like OMG! Its a tragic that someone else has it too. It's just not what I would think from this type of feeling..! I just want to cry right now.. Yet, I've never heard of someone dying of it.! :(
Aug 11, 2011
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by: Anonymous

My husband also gave me herpes. He had been misdiagnosed with having a staph infection when he had gone to a doctor when he was in college. Sometimes I get so angry about it. I can't believe he was stupid enough to be having sex with people and not using protection (he didn't tell me about this until after I found out I had herpes). I was always so careful myself. I always wonder what I am going to do if our marriage doesn't work out...how do you date with this?

When I first got diagnosed, I got an outbreak every month too, but now I feel like I've figured it out and now the signs so well and how to prevent symptoms that I have been outbreak free for over a year.
Aug 24, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Your husband said he never knew... What if it were you, that you had it & never knew?
I understand it's hard as you don't trust him anymore.. But it's such an easy virus to catch.
I got it 20 years ago , at 19 yo... I was devastated & alone & suffered in silence. I never slept around - it was a first boyfriend/one night..
I never thought I'd ever get married or have kids... Then 11 years later after I spent years in prayer, learning to love myself as God loves me...& using only natural remedies to help.. I met my future husband who loved me for me when I told him.. Now married over 7 years & he has not caught it even after having unprotected sex, which he doesn't mind as he loves me. We use condoms most of the time as a contraceptive measure, as I refuse to take the pill.

I wouldn't be taking pharmaseutical pills & meds. It's a trillion dollar business & all you need is tea-tree oil, coconut oil , echanacea , lysine, vit c...& hydrogen peroxide. This is where the cure lies.. That the drug companies shudder in fear that we would use a natural compound to cure herpes.

Let your body guide you... You can't listen to it if you are drugging it up every day. I havnt had an ob for years!!

Consider forgiving your husband - unless you know he lied. You will see it in his eyes. Or move on & seek happiness in God. Your life will change for the better & you will realize that HSV 2 becomes a blessing as you grow in character & truth & integrity.

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