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My husband cheated on me and I took him back and now I have Genital herpes. I am so so sad and have been crying most of the night. I wish That I wouldnt have taken him back. I feel so so stupid. I feel like it is my fault for taking him back even though I did not know that he had it.No I cant even look at him.I dont know if we will stay together,but I feel like damaged goods and no one else will ever want me.I have been completely faithful to my husband for our entire marriage of 12 years. It is not fair.how do you tell someone that you have herpes. I am so depressed. WHY ME??????????

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Aug 31, 2010
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I Understand
by: Anonymous

I too was just diagnosed with genital herpes. My husband had a 3 day fling with an old schoolmate. Lying to me telling me he was going on a golf trip when instead was really flying to New Hampshire to be with her. Upon his return and not aware (obviously)of the affair we had sex. When I did find out about the affair it was too late and I had been infected. I too feel like damaged goods, that I could never tell another partner that I had this virus and that I have no choice but to stay with my husband. I understand completely how you are feeling. We are 39 and 40 years old and have been married for 11 years. I NEVER thought this would happen the affair, the heartbreak and definitely not herpes. The worse part about this is 1 she has completely disappeared into nowhere and 2 my husband has had absolutely no signs of an outbreak. Me on the other hand have had 3 in 3 months. I feel so dirty I won't even wash my children's clothes with ours. I am so ashamed!

Sep 05, 2010
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Same situation
by: Anonymous

I just found out 3 days ago that I contracted herpes from my husbands "one night stand" I found out about the incident in February and was immedately tested, but not for herpes for some reason. Sadly he had slept with her nearly 4 months before that so I didnt stand a chance. We have been in counciling since February to work out our marriage but now I dont know what to do. I feel like Im stuck, who would want a divorcee, mother of 2 with herpes. I am so unbelievably angry and hurt. I have feel like nothing good will ever happen in my life. I literally did nothing to deserve this, not that anyone ever does but if you can imagine an amazing spouse coupled with a selfish immature spouse that was us. I had no idea he would ever do this. How do you forgive someone who is so grossly negligent that they would risk your life?

So confused, hurt and ready to just say f-it. My life sucks

Oct 31, 2010
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me too
by: Anonymous

my bf cheated on me w prostitutes and then gave me herpes. i was devestated... every dirty dog has its day...we cant let this control us.

Nov 12, 2010
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my husband did the same to me
by: Anonymous

My husband cheated and I did not know. Now, two month ago, I found out that I am infected. I am trying to deal with it. I am scared to date as I don't know how to tell another man that am infected. I have not had an outbreak and hoping that I will not have one.

Dec 06, 2010
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My BF gave me herpes that he caught from a prostitute
by: Anonymous

My boyfriend cheated on me with various prostitutes and I didn't know. I contracted herpes and thought I was having really bad thrush episodes as how would I have caught anything else when we were both faithful. When I found out he had been cheating on me I went and was tested and came back positive for herpes. I was devastated. I have had repeated attacks and everytime I have to relive how I caught this disease. I am grateful that it isn't a terminal disease, but as many others have said, I am not brave enough to tell anyone that I have it for fear of rejection. I think what makes it worse is how painful it is, whereas he seems to get a few red blisters and is fine the next day where I have a week of pain and am on antivirals. I certainly didn't ask to be cheated on, and given the option would have not slept with him whilst he was cheating on me. I guess all of us are asking where to from here?

Jan 05, 2011
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husband cheated
by: Anonymous

I am so glad I found this site. I just found out yesterday morning that my husband gave me herpes. We are separated, he beat me and treated me like dirt then used fear to get me and my son out of the house and he took all the money and has been trashing my name and I swear to god I never cheated on him. I loved him so much and I don't understand why he even married me just to do this to me? I now have a protective order to help keep him from me but I am so full of hurt and hate and just so lonely and scared and broken. What did I ever do to him to have this happen to me? What else can he do to me and to make it even worse I keep seeing pictures of him out on facebook all over other woman!!! He knows he has herpes and he is out there giving it to other woman!!!! I am so confused because these woman know he was with me, know he is my husband and know he has charges against him for beating me and they are fooling around with him and he is justing passing his herpes to these woman!!! Soon this whole state will have it, I know I need to tell them, but how?

Aug 24, 2011
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Wanted
by: Anonymous

I told my husband I had herpes ( given to me by a guy who knew he had it but still passed on the gift"- 20 years ago) before I married him & he loved me too much to care.
He has never caught it, as it's harder for men to catch it than for women, so that's good.

You are not dirty, even though you feel that. You simply have a virus that was passed on to you by your cheating husband.
Depending on how much you love him.. I would consider leaving him & living life without any man. Then if you do find someone you love.... Tell them (only when it's gets serious & he wants to commit to you.. No sex at all until then) .

But if you love your Hubby& he is extremely remorseful.. Stay with him. You have every right to be angry.. & I would refuse sex with him also. But never believe that you won't be "wanted " or loved because the right man will.

Sep 27, 2011
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My Husband gave me herpes
by: Anonymous

My husband gave me herpes, but before we got married, I used protection before and then stopped using it, and then that is when the nightmare began. I didn't know what to do or who to talk to. That is the most disgusting horrible thing that ever happened to me and I don't think it could get any worse. So I married him because noone else will want me with this crap. I just wish that I can turn back the hands of time and just ignored him, none of this would have happened, I almost hate him. So I know how everyone feel. I am lost too..

Nov 06, 2011
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Husband cheated
by: Anonymous

I have to say when I read your story it was like ready my very same story down to the same years married 12. Only difference I found out my husband new the girl had it, but just said he really didn't think he was going to get it-and they of course were not using protection.

I feel the same as you!! Part of me just feels so lost and alone (and that it will always feel this way)

I don't know when I will stop crying I think about it non stop. 12 years you really don't think you need to use protection with your own husband.

Nov 09, 2011
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My boyfriend cheated on me and gave me herpes.
by: Anonymous

Just a month ago i was told i had herpes type one and two. My boyfriend cheated on me back in april with a female that had been around the world and was well known. He knew she was nasty but still did it. But anyways. After my daughter was born i forgave him thought she lying bout the having sex so i moved back in with him. He had me thinking that they really didnt have sex so i slept with him. I got pregnant again just a month and a half after giving birth. Im so worried that my unborn baby is gonna have this virus. I wish i would have never fell for his lie. The only reason he finally admitted to it was because i told him i seen her at the health department getting checked and she had came out crying and told her sister she had aids. Which wasnt true. But i had to get the truth out of him somehow. But come to find out she was infected with herpes and passed it to him and he passed it to me. Im terrified to tell anyone i have such a horrible virus. I wanna leave him but now i feel stuck.

Dec 25, 2011
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Disgusted to look at
by: Anonymous

My husband gave me herpes. He thinks I got it from someone else and so when I told him him I was faithful,he still wouldn't believe me because he said that I was the cheater. I can't let this go because I'm still waiting for the truth to come nearly 4 years. I have become resentful and his behavior became so irrational that I don't want to live here anymore. I want to get a divorce and have been being a real bitch to him so he would give it to me or just leave. So why would someone put up with this if you weren't guilty ? Planing my get away. I've been also the one to make me look like the crazy one. He always said I was making things up. Too disquieted to stay. Merry Christmas

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