Angry...

Hi everyone. I have been living with herpes for 15 years now. I was in a relationship for 3 months and I told my partner about my condition. We were wearing condoms until the time he said he didn't care anymore.

Then he went back home. Its been one week of silence. Finally he told me he got tested positive. But he never had an outbreak so I guess its asymptomatic.

Its a big mistake not to get tested before you engage in sexual activity. 25% chance he/she already has it and doesn't know. Makes a big difference. So maybe it was me who passed it on, maybe not. Either way I feel so very sad and guilty. However my conscience should be clear, I did the right thing about being open about it, he made his choice knowing. Now he thinks his life is over, he wont be able to have another relationship, probably hates me, and of course its over between us.

I am angry. And I am sick and tired of this taboo issue that is so common and real. Most people carry it and don't even know it. Other willingly pass it on because they are selfish and irresponsible. I got it half way my 3 year relationship.

And finally, if you decide to go forward and assume risk, don't got back on your words and blame. It really hurts.